Becoming Your Own Valentine

Valentine's TreeMost of the messages coming our way this time of year are to “be someone else’s valentine.” But what if we took this opportunity to be our own valentine?

Valentine’s Day is a perfect opportunity to connect with the one who can truly bring love into your life – YOU!

Your well-being – emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually – depends on you.

Since Valentine’s Day falls on a full moon this year, it marks an ideal time for honoring the Inner Goddess within you, celebrating your own wisdom and light. Imagine being able to make a heart-to-heart connection with yourself, one that’s filled with love and gratitude – and giving yourself permission to step into the highest version of YOU.

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Celebrating the Winter Solstice

Winter Solstice

  • Would you like space to call your own this holiday season?
  • Would you like a place where you can celebrate your creativity and your intuition – and all your many gifts and contributions?
  • Would you like some support in identifying what you’d like to let go of – and what you’d like to keep – as you put closure on 2013?
  • Would you like a sacred space that could support you as you move into the New Year with grace and ease?
  • Would you like to dance with the energies of the Winter Solstice and apply the gifts of the winter season to your 2014 vision?

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Journaling by the Moonlight – Facilitator Training

JBTM - imagesThe Journaling by the Moonlight (JBTM) brand is expanding!

Come join a dynamic team of JBTM facilitators and add a rich, life-changing process to your menu of client services by offering workshops, retreats, and coaching programs based on the Journaling by the Moonlight process.

Originally created for mothers, this unique process is ideal for creative and spiritually-minded individuals who yearn for a deeper connection to self, and who are ready to tap into their inner light – what I call the “full moon within” – and claim their authentic self, both personally and professionally.  Based on the phases of the moon, Journaling by the Moonlight gently guides individuals from darkness to light as they create an authentic vision filled with purpose, passion and creative expression.

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Claim Your Creative Voice By Honoring Your Passion

Making Your Creative MarkAs a creativity coach and life purpose intuitive, I attract highly-creative women who are looking for more meaning in their lives, both personally and professionally. Part of the work we do together involves honoring their authentic voice.

Who are they when they show up fully and completely? And how does this voice get expressed in their professional work?

Many of my clients are artists, writers, innovators and trailblazers – all of whom have their own unique spin on what it is they do as creative professionals. And when this is expressed authentically, they make an everlasting creative mark on the world.

So how does passion play into making one’s mark in the world? And how does passion feed one’s creative voice?

Today, I’ve invited one of my early mentors, Eric Maisel to join me in this rich discussion. Eric was instrumental in my becoming a certified creativity coach. Through his books and teachings, I gained a deep understanding of what it means to “make your creative mark.”

Eric’s most recent book, Making Your Creative Mark: Nine Keys to Achieving Your Artistic Goals  proves once again why he is widely-recognized as a top creativity expert. Here’s what he had to say about the relationship between passion and voice.

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A logical — and vital — relationship exists between passion and voice. It is very hard to be passionate about what you’re doing if you haven’t found your voice as an artist. Imagine being forced to sing an octave too high or an octave too low, straining to hit notes that you can’t really hit and that aren’t natural to you. It would be very hard to be passionate about singing in that situation.

It is exactly like that with respect to whatever art you are creating. Whether you have been forced by circumstance not to create in your own voice, or whether you’ve avoided creating in your own voice for psychological reasons, the result will be a tremendous lack of passion for what you’re doing. Creating in your authentic voice produces and sustains passion.
With that in mind, here are ten tips for finding or reclaiming your voice. They are framed in terms of visual art, so if you are not a visual artist you will need to translate them so that they make sense for your art discipline.

1. Detach from your current visual library. A very common problem, and almost always an unconscious one, is the need an artist feels to make his work look like something he holds as “good art” or “real art” — very often old master art. Because he possesses an internal library of the successful artworks of well-known artists, without quite realizing that he is doing it, he aims his art in the direction of those successes. It is vital that an artist detach from that visual library — extinguish it, as it were — so that his own imagery has a chance to appear.

2. Try not to rest on skills and talent. Maybe you excel at producing dynamic-looking cats or turning a patch of yellow into a convincing sun. That you have these talents doesn’t mean that you ought to be producing lifelike cats or brilliant suns. Your strongest subject matter and style choices depend on what you want to say rather than on what you are good at producing. By all means, parlay your skills and talents — but don’t rely on them so completely that you effectively silence yourself.

3. Allow risk-taking to feel risky. Very often the personal work you want to do feels risky. Intellectually, you may find a way to convince yourself that the risk is worth taking — but when you try to take the risk, you balk because you suddenly feel anxiety welling up. Remember that a risk is likely to feel risky. Get ready for that reality by practicing and owning one or two robust anxiety-management strategies (more than a score of them are described in my book Mastering Creative Anxiety).

4. Complete projects for the sake of making progress. When you make new work that you think aims you in the direction of your genuine voice, try to complete that work rather than stopping midway because “it doesn’t look right” or “it isn’t working out.” You will make more progress if you push through those feelings, complete things, and only then appraise them. It is natural for work that is a stretch and new to you to provoke all sorts of uncomfortable feelings as you attempt it. Help yourself tolerate those feelings by reminding yourself that finishing is a key to progress.

5. Think at least a little bit about positioning. You may want to develop your voice independent of art trends and say exactly what you want to say in exactly the way you want to say it. On the other hand, it may serve you to take an interest in what’s going on and make strategic decisions about how you want to position yourself vis-à-vis the world of galleries, collectors, exhibitions, auctions, movements, and so on. It isn’t so much that one way is right and the other is wrong but rather that some marriage of the two, if you can pull it off, may serve you best: a marriage, that is, of marketplace strategizing and of intensely personal work that allows you to speak passionately in your own voice.

6. Try to articulate what you’re attempting. Artists are often of two minds as to whether they want to describe what they are attempting. Paraphrasing a visual experience into a verbal artist’s statement often feels unconvincing and beside the point. On the other hand, it can prove quite useful to announce to yourself what you hope to accomplish with your new work. By trying to put your next efforts into words, you may clarify your intentions and as a consequence more strongly value your efforts. The better you can describe what you are doing, the better you may understand your artistic voice — and the more passionate you can be in talking about your work.

7. Try not to repeat yourself. Repeating successful work has a way of reducing anxiety and can bring financial rewards as well. But it may also prevent us from moving forward and discovering what we hope to say. A balance to strike might be to do a certain amount of repeat work, for the sake of calmness and for the sake of your bank account, and to also add new work to your agenda. If you keep repeating yourself, it will prove very hard to remain passionate about your work.

8. Revisit your earliest passions. Life has a way of causing us to forget where our genuine passions reside. You may have spent decades in a big city and completely forgotten how much the desert means to you. You may have been so busy painting and parenting that your burning passion for creating a series of cityscapes fell off the map somewhere along the line. Finding your voice may involve something as simple and straightforward as making a list of your loves and starring the ones that still energize you. This is one of the simplest and smartest ways to discover what you are passionate about and what you want to say.

9. Think about integrating your different styles. Maybe you make two sorts of art, abstract relief paintings and realistic flat paintings. This division may have occurred at some point when, perhaps without consciously thinking the matter through, you decided that the one painting style allowed you to do something that the other didn’t. It may pay you to revisit this question today and see if the two styles can be integrated into some third style that allows the best of both current styles to come together. Whatever you discover from that investigation — whether it’s to move forward in a new way or to recommit to your current methods — you will have helped yourself better understand your artistic intentions. A lot of new passion can arise from these efforts at integration.

10. Accept never-before-seen results. It can feel odd to speak in your own voice and then not recognize the results. Because what you’ve created may be genuinely new — and completely new to you — it may look like nothing you’ve ever seen before. That can prove disconcerting! Don’t rush to judge it as too odd, a mess or a mistake, or not what you’d intended. Give it some time to grow on you and speak to you. Your voice may sound unfamiliar to you if you’ve never heard it before!

Remember: one of the keys to maintaining passion and enthusiasm for your work is finding your own voice and speaking in it!

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Eric Maisel is the author of Making Your Creative Mark and twenty other creativity titles including Mastering Creative Anxiety, Brainstorm, Creativity for Life, and Coaching the Artist Within. America’s foremost creativity coach, he is widely known as a creativity expert who coaches individuals and trains creativity coaches through workshops and keynotes nationally and internationally. He has blogs on the Huffington Post and Psychology Today and writes a column for Professional Artist Magazine. Visit him online at http://www.ericmaisel.com.

Excerpted from the new book Making Your Creative Mark ©2013 by Eric Maisel. Published with permission of New World Library http://www.newworldlibrary.com

What’s Your Purple Possibility?

What's Your Purple Possibility?

What’s Your Purple Possibility?

Have you ever felt like throwing the entire game board of LIFE up in the air – and seeing where the pieces land? Are you curious about what you might find underneath all the rubble? And are you eager to know how all the pieces fit together – in a way that honors who you are as an authentic human being?

This has inspired my newest programs, the Purple Possibility Studio and the Purple Possibility Diamond – designed to inspire the divine possibilities on your life purpose journey. Through creative exploration and an open mind, you’ll be gently guided into a more heightened awareness of what’s already present as you shift your focus toward connecting the dots of life’s synchronicities.

It’s a unique and spiritually-rich approach to exploring life’s possibilities by following the path of synchronicity. It’s designed to take you out of your head – and into the depth of what is possible for you when you step out of your comfort zone and claim your purple diamond of authenticity.

  • Would you like to shift from a mindset of “impossible” to “possible?”
  • Would you like to create the space to manifest the “purple possibilities” in your life?
  • What opportunities are already present – that you may be overlooking?

The name Purple Possibility came to me when I started thinking about the  possibilities that lie in “grey” when we step out of a black and  white mindset. And then I began to think, what if – we “colorized”  the black and white and made it red and blue? What possibilities would be  available to us if we chose to look through a purple lens?

What would we see? And how could this alter the path we’re  currently on?

By connecting the dots of synchronicity and following the “thread of purpose” – where would we land? And what doors would open from there?

Are you curious about your Purple Possibility?

Join me on this complimentary call with one of my favorite colleagues, Retreat Muse Karen McMillian as I define what I mean by “purple possibility” – and give you some ways that you can connect with yours.

This is my gift to you as valued subscriber!

So what’s your Purple Possibility?

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Journaling through the Holidays

While the holiday season can be quite joyous, it can also bring up a lot of stress and overwhelm – and for some, it can stir up feelings of pain or loneliness.

According to the American Institute of Stress, more than 110 million Americans take medication for stress-related causes each week. And when the holidays come along, people already predisposed to stress can find themselves feeling blue and more anxious than usual. Even those who don’t ordinarily feel stressed under the pressure of events or deadlines, still find that the holiday season can play havoc on day-to-day routines.

So what can we do?

“Plan for stress,” say the experts – just like you plan ahead for any calamity you want to avoid. The more prepared you are for the upcoming schedule, the more relaxed you’ll feel going into it.

During the holiday season, I always think of the film, “It’s a Wonderful Life.” It seems to capture the “heaviness” that can come around this time of year, with a gentle reminder to really appreciate the smaller things in our lives. It requires a mindset shift – a change in our perspective.

The good news is – you don’t have to let stress ruin your holidays. You can begin this shift in perspective by pinpointing what you’re anxious about.

• Are you feeling stressed because you’re not going to be able to fulfill your children’s gift requests?
• Are you and your partner wrangling over holiday expenses?
• Are you overloaded with too many invitations and don’t know how to say no.
• Are you feeling left out because your friends are enjoying the season and you’re not?

Start by considering your attitude. There’s no magic bullet, but your attitude can make a difference. Ask yourself, “Is my situation a small, medium or large problem? How upset do I want to get over it, and for how long?”

Look at the possibilities around you, not the restrictions.

Learn to recognize common holiday triggers, so you can disarm them before they lead to a meltdown.

Relationships – Relationships can cause turmoil, conflict or stress at any time, but tensions are often heightened during the holidays. Family misunderstandings and conflicts can intensify, especially if you’re thrust together for several days. On the other hand, facing the holidays without a loved one can be tough and leave you feeling lonely and sad.

Finances – With the added expenses of gifts, travel, food and entertainment – the holidays can put a strain on your budget and your peace of mind. Not to mention that overspending now, can mean financial worries for months to come.

Physical Demands – Even die-hard holiday enthusiasts may find that the extra shopping and socializing can leave them wiped out. Being exhausted increases your stress, creating a vicious cycle. Exercise and sleep – good antidotes for stress and fatigue – may take a back seat to chores and errands. And to top it off, burning the candle at both ends makes you more susceptible to colds and other types of health issues, both physical and mental.

The key is – don’t forget to take care of yourself during all the busyness! Take a few minutes for meditation or journaling – or perhaps an hour for a morning run or walk – or a good stretch during yoga.

As an avid journal writer, I find that dumping my anxieties out in my personal journal helps clear the space for me to step back and take a look at the bigger picture. This one simple act helps me turn overwhelm on its head and look at it from a different viewpoint.

Here are a few journaling prompts that can support you during a hectic holiday season. They’re broken down into categories (based on the type of journal writing prompt).

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Springboards

These are simple statements or questions that help you focus and clarify your writing. Like the diving board at the swimming pool, they provide a jumping-off place.

• What brings me peace?
• How (and/or what) do I want to celebrate this holiday season?
• As this year closes, I choose to let go of –
• This holiday season, I need —
• My stress triggers are –

Captured Moments

These are captured images in our mind – that freeze a moment in time. They are usually brief (often two or three paragraphs) and focus on the sensory descriptions of an event.

• My best (Christmas/Hanukkah/New Year’s) ever
• My most challenging (Christmas/Hanukkah/New Year’s/holiday) ever
• A memorable Christmas morning
• A memorable holiday family dinner

List of 100

Lists are great for clarifying, itemizing, gathering and noticing. Lists of 100 are particularly useful when you want to find out what’s going on beneath the surface of an issue or you just want to clear your mind. And it’s okay to repeat yourself (it just means it’s important)!

• Gifts you’d like to give to the world
• Ways to a peaceful heart
• Ways to cope
• Things that cause me stress during the holiday season
• My “holiday” to do list

Unsent Letters

Because the whole point of an unsent letter is NOT to send it, you’ll benefit from the opportunity to get as angry, sad, swoony, unreasonable, silly or indignant as you want. Unsent letters are a safe, satisfying way to release pent-up energy.

• Someone who has passed on
• Family member you’re having a struggle with
• Disappointment
• The year 2012

Tapping into Your Inner Wisdom

When we take the time to really go inside ourselves, we always know the right answer. Choose a question (or two) that is relevant to “self” during the holiday season. Some examples are:

• How can I stay calm?
• How might I contribute to peace on earth, good will toward all?
• What is the message of the season for me?
• How can I embody the true meaning of the holidays?
• What is my next right action with (someone with whom you’re having difficulty)?

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Journal writing is an excellent way to ease holiday stress – and to minimize or make sense of any pain or loneliness that may surface during this time of year.

Here’s to the power of journaling through the holiday season!

 

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Tina M. Games is the author of Journaling by the Moonlight: A Mother’s Path to Self-Discovery (an interactive book with an accompanying deck of 54 journaling prompt cards). As a certified creativity coach and life purpose intuitive, she is the “Moonlight Muse” for women who want to tap into the “full moon within” and claim their authentic self, both personally and professionally. Through her signature coaching programs, based on the phases of the moon, Tina gently guides women from darkness to light as they create an authentic vision filled with purpose, passion and creative expression. For more information about her work, please visit: www.JournalingByTheMoonlight.com where you can receive her 12 best tips for journal writing.